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Seerah & Prophet · Q&A

Contradiction between advice and Prophet's example on pampering?

“You have always been advising that pampering is harmful for both parents and children. In their speeches, many Maulanas give the impression that the Messenger of Allah had been pampering his children, particularly grandchildren.”Asked by Abdul Rahman, Delhi

He answers at 1:16:57 in Hadith-e-Jibril · 2 min 42 sec

His answer, in his own words
1:16:57
yeh toh bohat bada pehlu is ke andar maujood hai. maulana, agla sawal dilli se hai abdul rehman sahib ka. unhon ne likha hai maulana sahib you have always been advising that pampering is harmful for both parents and children. In their speeches, many Maulana give the impression that Rasool Allah had been pampering his children, particularly grandchildren. Hazrat Fatima is referred to as ladli beti. Kindly let us know the reality of things. Yeh to jhooti baat hai.
1:17:35
Hergiz yeh ladli beti nahi thi. Aap jante hain Rasool Allah ne Hazrat Fatima se shadi ki thi. To kaise ki thi? Ali ko bulaya aur un se shadi kar di. Nikah padha diya. Jabki Ali ke paas kuch bhi nahi tha. Un ke ghar mein. Sirf ek chakki thi aata peesne ke liye. Aur ek chatai thi. Aur mitti ka ek ghada tha bas. Aaj yeh kaun hai? Yeh log taqdeer jo karte hain ke woh apni beti ko ladle pan ke liye aise ghar mein shadi kar dein. Koi karega?
1:18:14
Apni mohabbat ke izhaar ke liye aisa karega woh ke apni beti ko ek aise shakhs se shadi kar de jis ke paas ghar bhi rehne ke liye nahi. Aur is ke baad Hazrat Fatima jo thi woh wahi chakki peesti thi. Un ke haath mein chhala pad gaya tha. To woh aayin Rasool Allah ke paas ke mujhe mehnat mushaqqat karni padti hai to mujhe ek khadim de dijiye. Khadim. To jante hain Rasool Allah ne kya jawab diya? Unhone kaha kya main tum ko khadim se behtar bataun ek cheez?
1:18:55
To Hazrat Fatima ne kaha ke haan. To Rasool Allah ne un ko wahi cheez de di ke jis ko aaj kal tasbeeh Fatima kaha jata hai. Subhan Allah, Alhamdulillah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah Akbar. Kya aaj kal koi koi aadmi aisa karega apni beti ki mohabbat ke sath? Koi karega apni ladli beti ke sath? Koi apni ladli beti ke sath yeh karega ke woh mange us se khadim aur us ko de de ke ja ja ke yeh tasbeeh parho?
1:19:27
Yeh sab jhooti taqdeerein hain aur bilashubah yeh log Allah taala pakad jayenge kyunke floging hui. Flogging. To apne jhoote culture ke liye Quran Hadees se justify karte the. Aisa log sab logon ki floging hogi. To woh mujhe koi shaq nahi. Maulana, agla sawal Kashmir se aya hai Aamir Mori
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