What values to teach children for success in both worlds?

maulana, agla sawal gurgaon se hai. miss farah raees khan ka. unhon ne likha hai as a mother i want to ask what kind of values i should give to my children so that they become successful in both the worlds is ke bare mein batain. sirf ek cheez. sirf ek cheez. yaani do do cheez. pampering mat kijiye. un ke andar self confidence paida kijiye.

self confidence. pampering ka matlab kya hai? self confidence ko chheenna. jab aap pampering karte hain, un ko easy money dete hain to is ka matlab hai ke aap se un se self confidence ko chheen rahe hain un se. main aap ko ek misaal deta hoon ke self confidence ka matlab kya hai. main poona gaya to poona mein kuch parsi family rehte hain. parsi log is mamle mein bohat hi yaani samajhdar hain. isi liye business mein taraqqi kar rahe hain woh log.

to mujhe bataya gaya ke yahan ek parsi hai. to us ne apne bete ko ek takht par, ek mez par khara kiya. mez par. chote bache ko jo god mein liya jata hai us ko. chalne phirne wala tha woh. to mez par khara kar ke khud saamne aa beta aa. yaani jaise ke woh god mein lena chahta hai us ko. to beta thoda jhuka us ki god god manne ke liye. to baap peeche hat gaya. aur beta dharram se gir pada zameen mein. to us ke baad baap ne kaha ke dekho bete duniya mein kisi ek par bharosa na karna. apne baap par bhi nahi. to main samajhta hoon ke sab se bari cheez jo maa baap de sakte hain bache ke andar woh self confidence hai.

yani khud kamao to samjho ke yeh meri kamai hai. dilli mein nehru university mein aik aik sahib hain jo retired professor hain. to mujhe maloom hua ke woh car un ke p as nahi hai. un ke bete ne kaha ke aap professor the itne dinon tak aur aap ke paas car bhi nahi hai. aap cycle pe chalte hain. woh bicycle pe chalte the woh. to unhon ne apne bete se kaha ke dekho mein tum ko car nahi de sakta. kaha loan le kar bhi mein tum ko car nahi doon ga.

tum car chahte ho to khud kamao. khud kam kar apne liye car khareedo. to mein samajhta hoon ke maa baap jo hain jo karte hain pampering woh is se yani confidence chheen rahe hain. woh woh depend ho jata hai sab ke baap ka paisa, maa ki mohabbat isi par dene lagta hai woh. is ke andar yeh shauq nahi paida hota ke mein khud kamaoon. mein khud apni zindagi banao. yeh jazba hi nahi paida hota. mein samajhta hoon ke maa baap ko sab se bari cheez jo dena chahiye apne beton ke andar woh yahi hai self confidence.

aur yeh ke bas sab kuch woh dete raho, easy money dete raho. yeh to bachon ko kill karna hai. mein is ko bachon ke liye samajhta hoon ke bohat hi zyada yani tabah karna hai bachon ko. ke aap easy money de rahe hain aur is ke andar incentive nahi paida hota ke mein khud kamaoon. sab se bari aaj kal ghar ghar mein jo buraiyan aa gayi hain woh yahi hain. maulana, agla sawal meerut city se shahbaz ansari sahib ne kiya hai. unhon ne likha hai maulana please tell me which knowledge is needed to discover ایمان aur reality of life