Dealing with criticism and mockery
“People's negative criticism or mockery of me is very painful. What is the way to avoid this pain? Can we ignore it and continue our work? But in this path we have to suffer these pains repeatedly. Is it possible that we develop ourselves to such an extent that no one's rudeness has any effect on us?”Asked by شاہنواز ظفر, دلی
He answers at 41:04 in Importance of Peace · 3 min 42 sec
41:04maulana, yeh sawal aaya hai shahnawaz zafar sahab ka, dilli se, aur unhon ne likha hai ke logon ka apne upar negative tanqeed ya mazak bohat hi takleef deh hota hai. is takleef se bachne ka kya rasta hai? kya hum ise ignore kar ke apna kaam karte rahen? lekin is raste mein bar bar humein in takleefon se dochar hona parta hai. kya aisa mumkin hai ke hum itne develop ho jayen ke kisi ki badtameezi ka hamare upar koi asar na ho? dekhen, islam ka jo principle hai is mamle mein ke jo critique hai, jo tanqeed kar raha hai, us ko chahiye ke woh allegation ki zuban na bole, ilzam tarashi ki zuban na bole.
42:04balkeh facts ko le kar ke comment de apna. yani sabit shuda fact, aisa fact jo dono fareeq ke darmiyan tasleem shuda ho, us ko le kar ke bole woh. aur niyat par hamla karna, aib lagana, yeh islam mein haram hai. lekin ab dunya mein jab hota hai to ab sawal yeh hai ke woh aadmi kya kare jis ki tanqeed ki gayi hai? yeh usool to hum dunya ko bata sakte hain ke bhai aisa karo. kuch log manenge, kuch log na manenge. ab is is insan ke liye kya hai jo jis par criticize kiya gaya hai? to us ke liye tareeqa islam mein yeh bataya gaya hai ke aap bajaye is ke ke aap provoke hon, ghussa ho jayen, react karen, aap sirf yeh kijiye ke dekhen ke us ne jo baat kahi hai, us mein kuch sachai hai.
43:11agar sachai hai to us ko seriously lijiye aur apni islaah kar lijiye. agar sachai nahi hai, woh allegation hai to phir aaraaz kijiye, avoid kijiye. uljhiye mat. yani agar is ne jo baat kahi hai, woh yani is qabil hai ke aap is ko manen, apni ghalti ki islaah karen to aap zaroor is ko maniye aur is ki islaah kar lijie apni ghalti ki. agar aap dekhte hain ke is ne to ek jhoota ilzaam laga rakha hai ke woh character assassination kar raha hai to character assassination to islam mein haraam hai.
44:03lekin aap agar provoke hon, aap react karen to aap ka waqt zaya hota hai. to is ko main kehta hoon ke by time strategy, B-U-Y, by time strategy. yani jab aap aaraaz karte hain, jab chup ho jate hain to aap time avail karte hain. aur jab ulajh jate hain to aap ka time waste hota hai.
44:37to ya to apni islaah kar lijie ya phir by time strategy ko apnaie. maulana, agla sawal maharashtra se aaya hai aur muhammad ibrahim ginni sahib ne kiya hai. unhon ne aapse poocha hai ke maulana what is the secret formula behind your thought process?