How to overcome unawareness of obsessions?

hai. Maulana, agla sawal Dilli se kiya hai Dr. Muslima Siddiqui ne aur unhon ne likha hai ke our problem is that we are not aware of our obsessions. We think that it is a reality and not an obsession. How to overcome this problem? Sirf sochna, aur kuch nahi hai. Aap dekhein, husband wife ke beech mein ladaai jhagda kyun hota hai? Woh bhi obsession ki wajah se hota hai. Yaani hota yeh hai ke woh dono pre-marriage period mein blood relationship mein jeete hain.

Post-marriage period mein unko non-blood relationship mein jeena padta hai. To pichla obsession jo hai, woh iski wajah se woh chahte hain ke jisse mera blood ka ta'alluq tha, waise hi yahan bhi ho. Dono yeh chahte hain. Yaani jin logon se unka blood ka ta'alluq tha, woh us se jis tareeqe se pyaar mohabbat karte the, waise hi yahan bhi ho. Woh possible nahi hai. Non-blood relationship mein woh possible nahi hai jo blood relationship mein hota hai.

To saare jhagde isi liye hote hain. Saare jhagde. Yaani isko main kahunga ke over expectation mein dono mubtala rehte hain. To iska hal hai sochna, siwaye iske ke so chein. Main khud soch kar jaana, maine is baat ko, is baat ko maine soch kar jaana ke wahan kyun aisa hota hai ke shaadi ke baad ladte jhagadte hain.

Love marriage ho tab bhi. To soch kar maine jaana, yeh baat kahin kitaab mein nahi paaya, likha hua maine ke shaadi se pehle khooni rishte ke darmiyan aadmi hota hai. To wahan to yaani sirf mohabbat hi mohabbat hoti hai. Shaadi ke baad isko rehna padta hai ghair khooni rishte ke darmiyan. To yahan par woh woh fitri mohabbat nahi hoti. To soch kar aap ko ta'alluq banana padta hai.

Wahan beghair soche ta'alluq hota hai. Yeh baat maine soch kar jaani. To har aadmi soche, apni aqal ko istemaal kare. Maulana, agla sawal Dilli se kiya hai Danish Fazal Sahab ne aur unhon ne likha hai ke Muslims who destroy the historical places or raise down the historical idols give the example of Prophet of Islam who, after the conquest of Makkah,