Why people miss good intentions behind criticism

Maulana yeh sawal aaya hai Ms Aarti Bhardwaj ka Delhi se. Unhon ne likha hai Maulana sahib why people do not understand the good intentions behind speaking against their favor. Is ke bare mein batayein. Dekhiye yeh to aaj isi par maine kaha ke logon ki thinking jo hai woh develop nahi hoti hai. Conditioned hote hain. Yani apne weakness ko jante nahi. Jaise maine khud apne bare mein kaha ke main apni is weakness ko nahi janta tha ke mujhe dawa kis tarah se khai jati hai woh janta nahi tha main. Yeh mujhe yahi saada si baat hai bilkul saada si ke capsule munh mein aap dalein to kis tarah se is ko gale se utarein yeh janta nahi tha main.

To choti si baat mein jab itna aadmi conditioning ho jata hai to badi badi baaton mein kyun nahi hoga? To kisi insan ko bhi aap blame na dijiye. Hamesha yeh sochiye ke is ki jo conditioning hai is ko kaise toda jaye. Is ko kaise de-condition kiya jaye. Mujhe to bar bar tajurba yeh hua hai ke sara mamla hota hai conditioning ka. Har aadmi kisi na kisi cheez mein conditioned rehta hai. Apne ghar mein apne mahol mein apne paros mein apne mulk mein.

Is conditioning ki wajah se is ki baaton ko samajh mein nahi aati. To jab tak isi conditioning ko aap todein nahi tab tak aap is ko samjha nahi sakte.

To conditioning itni zyada yani har aadmi ko ek condition ke case hai. Main samajhta hoon ke koi aadmi bhi aisa nahi hai jo conditioning conditioning case na ho. To zindagi ka main samajhta hoon ke har aadmi yani condition ho hi jata hai. Mistake condition ho hi jata hai har aadmi. To zindagi ki jo beginning hai yani zindagi ka jo starting point hai woh yahi hai ke aap ne apne ko de-condition karein.

Yani before de-conditioning your personality there is no beginning. Yeh har aadmi mein main samajhta hoon ke is mein koi exception nahi hai. To jis aadmi ko aap payein ke aisa hai to yeh sochiye ke is ki conditioning ko toda kaise jaye. Aur jaise hi aadmi ki condition ٹوٹتی hai woh aadmi samajh leta hai baat ko. Mujhe to bar bar tajurba is ka hua. Yani yeh na samjhiye ke woh yani jaan boojh kar aisa kar raha hai.

Conditioning conditioning ki wajah se woh yani unaware hai apne khud apne weakness se. To main yahi kahunga ke bajaye is aadmi ko blame dene ke aap sirf yeh kijiye ke yeh pata kijiye ke kaise is ki conditioning hui hai. Is condition ko kaise toda ja sakta hai. Study karwayein aap is ko baat cheet karein is ko aap is ko koi nayi baat is ko samjhayein. to hamare haan to yani bohat misalein hain sankron sankron misalein hain ke jab jab conditioning toot gayi aadmi ki to usi baat ko samajhne laga jo us ke pehle to samajh nahi pata tha wo.

to hum mein se har shakhs jo chahta hai logon ko theek karna us ko yeh jaanna chahiye ke us ke kaam ki jo beginning hai wo de-conditioning se hogi. us ke baghair nahi ho sakti hai. Miss Naghma Siddiqui ne Dilli se likha hai can you give a suggestion on how we can change our addiction؟ Big suggestion to

yahi hai ke khud sochiye aur doosra aadmi jab aap ko kuch bataye to us par dhyan dijiye. us ko brush aside mat kijiye aksar aisa hota hai ke doosra aadmi jab aap ko dhyan dilata hai to aap us ko brush aside kar dete hain. to aur koi tareeqa koi is mein koi koi bohat hi koi aur technical tareeqa to mein dene wala hoon is ka. yeh hai ke aap introspection karein sochein apne bare mein aur is baat ko maan lein ke kai baatein aisi ho sakti hain jo hamare andar ho weakness hum jante bhi nahi ho ke wo weakness hai.

isi liye maine apni misaal de di khud apni misaal ke mere andar yeh weakness thi ke main pani peeta tha to sahi tareeqe se nahi peeta tha is liye dawa mere gale mein phans jati thi. lekin main mujhe mujhe is ka is ka pata nahi tha mujhe aaj mein dekhiye hota kya hai is isi misaal se batata hoon aap ko ke aadmi kisi obsession mein pad jata hai obsession jaise mujhe obsession kiya tha ke peghambar ne kaha ke pani thoda thoda kar ke piyo pani thoda thoda kar ke piyo lekin every rule has its exceptions. is hadees mein hamein yeh sochna chahiye ke every rule has its exceptions koi bhi baat ho to us pe exception hota hai to aam halat mein to theek hai thoda thoda kar ke piyo.

lekin aap jab dawa le rahe hain capsule to aap ko poora ghont lena parega tabhi wo utre gi nahi to nahi utre gi ab yeh sochne se baatein maloom hoti hain. jo bohat acha tha ke maine yeh adat banai ke pani thoda thoda kar ke piyo lekin isi ke sath mujhe yeh bhi janna chahiye ke every rule has its exceptions. to jab dawa ka ek capsule wo mun mein dala aap ne to wo wo exception ka case ban gaya ab aap ko pani peene se zyada mun mein lena chahiye taake utar utar jayega yeh sab. to

yahi hai ek hi process hai wo hai sochna sochna sochna sochna aur us ke liye tayyar rehna ke jaise hi mujhe pata chale apni weakness ka jaldi sambhal loon is ko mein. phir mein der na karoon yahi baat meri samajh mein aati hai. Miss Aisha ne Dilli se likha hai Maulana today you emphasized on art of thinking that is development of thinking power my question is is there any formula on how to develop the thinking power please comment nahi is ka koi technical formula to hai nahi

koi bhi technical formula nahi hai aap study karein cheezon ko observe karein gehrai ke sath logon ki baaton ko sunein jaise misaal ke tor par dekhiye maine aksar logon ko paya hai ke jab wo kisi doosre ke paas sun rahe hote hain to wo poora nahi sun rahe hote tab bhi wo un ka apna mind ka jo hai mechanism chalta rehta hai yani ek point hai jis pe discussion ho raha hai ab doosra aadmi ek us ko apne dhang se bata raha hai to mera mind jo hai usi chalta rahega apne apne khayalon par jaise hi wo khatam karega main phir aaghal doonga wo jo mere mind mein tha

to mein Allah ke fazl se mere andar yeh baat Allah taala ne maine rakhi hai ke mein impetive mind ho ke sunta hoon doosre ki baat hoti hai der ke liye apne mind ko ek dum kh ali kar leta hoon isi ko sunta hoon jo keh raha hai kehne wala to art of thinking jo hai woh uska koi technical tareeka nahi hai aap aap sochein uske liye tayyar rahein ke jaise hi meri ghalti batai jayegi maan lunga usko sab se zyada crucial baat jo hai woh hai apni ghalti ko ko maan lena jaldi se aap keh sakte hain ke i was wrong i was wrong mein batata hoon sab se bari jo rukawat hai thinking power ko develop karne mein woh yahi hai ke logon ke andar yeh yeh yaani woh nahi hota woh dar nahi karte karte uske liye ke woh keh dein ke i was wrong darte hain ke mein aisa keh doon to mein kuch chhota ho jaunga

to ya to woh deny karte rehte hain maante hi nahi ya dil mein dil mein maan lete hain seedhe se kahiye jaise hi aap kahein ke i was wrong waise aap ke mind mein ek naya development aa jayega to mein yahi kahunga ke study kijiye cheezon ko bohat gehrai ke sath dekhiye distraction se apne aap ko bachaiye aur uske liye tayyar rahein ke jaise hi bataya jaye aap ki kisi weakness ko jaldi se keh dijiye ke waqai yeh ghalti thi mere mere dil thi i was wrong to yeh koi yaani koi uska koi short course nahi hai yeh to life life long process ek hai zindagi bhar aap ko sochna hai zindagi bhar apni thinking ko develop karna hai aakhir waqt tak yeh chalta rehta hai mera tajurba to yahi hai mister surya mukharji ne dilli se likha hai

maulana ji should be adjust ourselves despite of being on theright track and compromising the very ideals with those who live by no ideals haan dekhiye yeh yeh har aadmi ka problem hota hai jo bhi aadmi society mein reh raha hai uska to mein to dekhiye compromise ko manta hoon compromise ko adjustment ko manta hoon mein lekin woh compromise yaani mein mera formula kyun hai apne kisi interest ke liye nahi hai sirf is liye ke mera formula yeh hai ke doosra aadmi agar aap ko chahta dikhai parta hai ke woh right track se hta hua hai to aap uske yaani uske blushar baniye aur sachai ke sath usko samjhane ki koshish kijiye agar woh maan leta hai to bari achi baat hai agar nahi maan manta hai to aap wahin par peeche hatt jaiye reset ki jiye reset reset kijiye kyun kyun phir aap time waste karenge

to save your time to save your energy you have to reset you have to adjust you have to make compromise mein usko cowardice nahi samajhta ya usko mein unprincipled behaviour nahi samajhta compromise ko to dekhiye do cheezein alag alag hain ek yeh hai ke aap koi ghalt faida uthana chahte hain koi ghalt faide ke liye aap kisi se compromise karein woh to ek alag cheez hai usko to koi bhi nahi kahega yeh theek kaam hai yaani apne ek ghalt faide ke liye ya koi aap se ghalt faida lena chahta hai maslan ek aadmi officer hai uske paas ek aadmi aata hai ke mera falan kaam kar do aur woh ghalt kaam hota hai paisa deta hai usko paisa de kar ke usko kehta hai ke paisa lo abhi yeh kaam kar do woh paisa le kar ke woh officer kaam kar deta hai

to yeh jo compromise kiya is officer ne yeh to bohat ghalt baat hai to interest ke liye compromise karna yeh to bilashuba ghalt hai interest ke liye compromise karna ghalt hai principle ke liye compromise karna bilkul sahi hai principle ke principle ke liye compromise karna bilkul sahi hai to do alag alag tareeke yaani do alag alag qism ke compromise hain to mera tajurba yahi hai ke interest ke liye compromise karna is se aap ke andar weak personality banti hai weak personality lekin principle ke liye compromise jab aap karein to aap ko opportunity milti hai woh aap ko opportunity deta hai aap

ko aap ka rasta rukta nahi yeh yeh yeh jo qism hai compromise karne ki woh to must hai kyunke iske baghair aap koi bara kaam kar nahi sakte maulana zikwan nadvi ne dilli se likha hai british scientist stephen hawking had said in his interview that paradise and after life is nothing but a fairy story what is your comment on this haan dekhiye maine padha tha times of India mein to us waqt maine padhne ke baad maine kaha tha ke yeh scientist ki zuban se ek unscientific comment hai dekhiye ek

scientific stand kya hai science yeh kehti hai ke jo cheez observation mein aaye wahi reality hai jo na observation hai to woh reality nahi hai yani is is sense mein nahi ke woh wajood nahi reality ka is sense mein ke hum is ke baray mein kuch kehne ki position mein nahi hain yani jo aaj cheez aap ke telescope mein aati hai jo jo microscope ke ke zariye dikhai padti hai to woh to hum ne dekh liya to is ko to hum maan lenge jo cheez telescope aur microscope ke range mein nahi aati hai is ke baray mein hum kuch kehne ki position mein nahi hain yeh hai stand scientist ka lekin unhon ne ek statement de diya

jabke jo recent research hui hai cosmos ki to yeh maan liya gaya hai ke cosmos ka sirf five percent hissa woh hai jo hum dekh paate hain 95 percent hissa woh hai jo hum dekh hi nahi sakte to aisi halat mein aap dekhiye ke science scientiston ko kya karna chahiye science danon ko yeh karna chahiye ke according to the physical laws perhaps there is no existence of paradise yani probably kehna chahiye is ko probably there is no physical existence of paradise probably kyunke humein pata nahi hai lekin yeh keh dena ke paradise koi exist karti nahi hai aap kaise keh sakte hain yani kis knowledge ke base par kahenge aap kis knowledge jo aap khud aap ka jo science hai wahi batati hai ke five percent ke siwa jo duniya hai woh humein is ki khabar hi nahi hai is ki

is ki khabar nahi hai hum ko kyunke aap jante hain ke insaan ne jo banai hai telescope ya hamari aankh se hum light ho tab dekh paate hain light na hote hain nahi dekh paate aap to universe mein dekhiye yeh discovery hui hai ke bara hissa dark matters ka hai dark matters ka matlab yeh nahi ke woh dark hain woh bhi bright hain jis jis se doosre star bright hote hain lekin un ka strong strong hai un ka ke woh apne apne light ko bhi kheenche hue hain light ko nikalne nahi dete itna strong hai woh yeh suraj ki light hum par aati hai kyunke suraj apni light ko rok nahi roke hue nahi hai lekin woh jo hain woh itna strong hain ke apni light ko rok lete hain to hamare aur un ke beech mein roshni nahi hai hum dekh nahi paate na aankh se dekhenge na telescope se to jab science khud yeh manti hai ke aap zariye boli nahi hai bara hissa kainaat ka to aap kaise keh sakte hain to woh sirf yeh keh sakte hain ke probably there is no physical existence of paradise bas yahi scientific statement hai baqi yeh kehna hai ke yeh pariyon ki kahaniyan hain aur yeh aisa kuch hai nahi kahin to aap kis ilm ke base par kehte hain kis ilm ke base par

to bas mein ne parha tha is ko woh yahi baat mein ne is ko kahi thi ke yeh ek scientist ki zuban se ek un scientific statement hai Mr Abdul Rehman ne Delhi se likha hai Maulana sahib whatever is granted to us in this world is for the test then what is meant by be hisab rizq that Allah provides for whoever He wills dekhiye aap be hisab ka matlab yeh nahi hai yani absolute sense mein nahi hai yani khud rizq ki nisbat se nahi hai woh hamare amal ki nisbat se hai woh yani hum ne amal kiya ho one percent to Khuda hundred percent de sakta hai is ka yani is ka ajar yeh matlab nahi ke yani khud rizq jo hai jo sari duniya mein jo sari kainaat mein jo rizq hai woh sab ko aadil deta hai is ke upar yeh matlab is ka nahi hai

is ka matlab yeh hai ke jo jo jo insaan ne ek amal kiya hai to agarche woh thoda ho lekin is ke andar qualitatively itni zyada important hota hai woh ke is ka yani in terms of quantity is ko bohat de deta hai amal to thoda hai lekin in terms of quality is ke andar bohat bari koi cheez hai to Khuda is ki quality ko dekhte hue bohat bari quantity mein ajar de deta hai to is ko absolute absolute sense mein mat lijiye koi bhi cheez dekhen absolute sense mein nahi hoti hai Dr Farida Khanam ne Delhi se likha hai a scholar once observed people are lost in trivialities not attuned to the challenging issues of the time what is your comment on this

yeh to bohat sahi hai aaj bhi sahi hai pehle bhi sahi tha choti cheezon mein log phanse rehte hain choti cheezon mein ab bari jo cheez hai is mein nahi phanstey misaal ke taur par dekhiye musalman 50 baras se reservation reservation mein phanse gaye hain hum ko reservation do ye bahut hi mamooli cheez hai baal farz reservation de bhi diya jaye to us se community ko taraqqi nahi hone wali hai taraqqi hogi hard work se mehnat se is par zor dena chahiye sare leader bolte hain ab to

aj kal boli kam ho gayi hai 1947 ke baad main ne dekha ke sab ye boli bolte the reservation do reservation do reservation do mujh ko chhod kar ke main kabhi bhi reservation ki himayat nahi ki main ne reservation se kuch bhi bas hal nahi hone wala na to milega aur mil jaye tab bhi kuch hone wala nahi hai community ko community ko jagaiye is ke andar spirit paida kijiye hard work ki mehnat karne ki to isi yeh hai ek ek travel cheez ko itna badhana chadhana reservation ko mein travel samajhta hoon mamooli cheez badhana chadhana badhana chadhana is ko itna zyada

aisi discrimination hai sare log discrimination ki boli bolte hain koi ek waqia le lein kahin isi ko generalize karenge aur bas dekho discrimination hota hai dekho imtiyaz hota hai yeh bhi wahi hai mein ne dekhi choti si baat ko badhana chadh raha hoon aur bohat sari bari baton ko chhod dena to mein ne paya ke beshtar log jo hain beshtar log jo hain travel matters mein phanse rehte hain aur bari bari baatein jo hain is mein na sochte na apne ko is mein involve karte yeh aam mizaj pata nahi kyun hai lekin hai yahi mizaj hamare mission mein hum yeh koshish karte hain ke yeh mizaj khatm ho travel cheezon ko focus mein na lein balke focus mein na bari bari cheezon ko hamare mission mein Allah inshallah isi ki koshish ki jati hai Maulana der az a comment wich is kam bi for i move on to da next question i read the comment it is kam from miss shahida zaman delhi she is written Maulana sahib i am deeply touch by your discourses and speeches i very much appreciated the article on Islam in today times of India

i suggest such article should frequently appear in the paper agla sawal hai mister amanullah ka delhi se unhon ne likha hai aap ke bare mein ek naya booklet chapa hai is mein bataya gaya hai ke aap ne koi daway kar diya hai magar booklet ko kai bar parhne ke bawajood mein is mein ya aap ki kitabon mein aisa koi daway pane mein nakam raha