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Ethics & Character · Q&A

Will father's ultimatum reform his sons?

“A father, for the sake of reform, tells his three young sons that until you quit gutka, paan, and cigarettes, I will not come home. And that man has been staying at his brother's place for several days. Maulana, will this action of the father reform the children?”Asked by Mr. Abdul Latif, Karachi, Pakistan

He answers at 59:29 in Quran for All Mankind · 2 min 10 sec

His answer, in his own words
59:29
Maulana, yeh sawal Mr Abdul Latif Sahab ka hai, Karachi, Pakistan se. Unhon ne likha hai: "Ek baap islah ke khatir apne teen naujawan beton se kehta hai ke jab tak tum gutka paan aur cigarette wagera nahi chhodoge, tab tak main ghar nahi aaunga." Aur woh sahab kai roz se apne bhai ke haan thehre hue hain. Maulana Sahab, kya baap ka yeh amal aulad ki islah kar dega? Kabhi nahi. Is se islah nahi hoti. Islah ka taluq jo hai, mind ki re-engineering. Aadmi wahi karta hai jo us ke bare mein aap us ko convince kar dein, us ke dimagh mein utar dein. Jis baat ke liye aap convince na kar sakein, us ke liye aap yeh umeed bhi nahi kar sakte ke woh amal amal karega.
1:00:33
Us ke upar aise baap jo hain, khud galati kar ke bachchon ko bigadte hain. Jab bigadte hain to us ke baad yeh sab harkatein karte hain. Jinka aap keh rahe hain, woh yaqeenan hi is not an exception. Dekhiye, ek bigad ka aaghaz kahan se hota hai ? Bigad ka hota hai pampering se, easy money se, jo jiska jo bazahir khud baap hota hai. Jitne bachche bigadte hain, one to all, sab ki jad mein kya hota hai? Pampering aur easy money. To yeh to baap khud zimmedar hai, apni islah karein.
1:01:10
woh yeh ghussa jo kar rahay hain, apnay oopar ghussa karein. woh aap pata kijiye to woh baap ne zaroor yahi sab kiya hoga, khoob pampering aur khoob easy money. to to bigar rahay hain, bachay bigar rahay hain, kyun nahi bigarein ge? ab ghussa dikhate hain. aisa ghussa bilkul aik stepped kaam hai, is se koi islaah nahi ho sakti. is se Maulana, doosra sawal un ki wife ka hai, Karachi, Pakistan se hi. unhon ne likha hai ke "jo log zaroorat aur hiras ke darmiyan farq nahi paate, wohi log sab se zyada tension aur stress mein jeetay hain." Maulana sahib, mera sawal yeh hai ke aakhir jo cheezein logon ki pareshani aur stress ka sabab hain, woh cheezein log apni zindagi se door kyun nahi kar letay?
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