Maulana Wahiduddin Khan

Advice for Daily Household Arguments Between Spouses

“In our house, arguments occur every day between the woman and me over every other issue. Please give us your advice for them as well as for me.”Asked by Shahid Khan, Poland

He answers at 27:36 in How to Become Deserving of Paradise · 2 min 11 sec

His answer, in his own words
27:36
maulana, yeh sawal bheja hai poland se shahid khan sahib ne. unhon ne likha hai: "in our house everyday arguments occur between the women in every other issue. please give us your advice for them as well as for me." dekhen, jo zindagi ke problem hain, woh to bohat hi peace, bohat hi ziyada qeemat wale hain. har problem aap ko lesson dene ke liye aata hai aur kaise manage kiya jaye, yeh batane ke liye aata hai. aap problem ko bas aik hi nazar se dekhiye ke kaise us ko manage kiya jaye, kaise us ko manage kiya jaye.
28:37
bas agar problem na ho zindagi mein to aap kaise seekhenge? manage karne ka method kaise seekhenge? aap apni aql ko istemal kijiye, study kijiye, react kabhi mat kijiye, ghussa kabhi mat kijiye, balkeh Sochiye. to problem aap ke liye boon hai. boon agar problem na ho to aap ka development ruk jayega.
29:19
maulana, yeh comment bheja hai doctor naghma siddiqui ne dilli se. unhon ne likha hai: "in making us a self-made person, our critics are truly our benefactors." maulana, this is a new way of thinking. i did not know this before today. i will follow your advice, inshallah, from today onwards. inshallah. maulana, agla sawal bheja hai
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