Can bad habits be changed at age 48?
“Maulana, I am forty eight years old, and I discovered you through a friend of mine. I want to know if I try to change my bad habits at this age, then will I be able to become a better person? By nature, I am a very distracted person who lives in anxiety and restlessness all the time. I have started to read and listen to you, and it has had a coming effect in my personality.”Asked by محمد حبیب, لکھنؤ
He answers at 34:16 in Realization of God · 3 min 15 sec
34:16maulana, agla sawal bheja hai lucknow se muhammad habib sahib ne. unhon ne likha hai: "maulana, i am forty eight years old, and i discovered you through a friend of mine. i want to know if i try to change my bad habits at this age, then will i be able to become a better person? by nature, i am a very distracted person who lives in anxiety and restlessness all the time. i have started to read and listen to you, and it has had a calming effect on my personality. but i fear that my personality has become permanently negative. i desperately need your advice."
35:06dekhiye, aap ne yeh jo kaha ke by nature, yeh yahi aap ki bhool hai. aap samajhte hain ke by nature aap aise hain? nahin, by conditioning aap aise ho gaye hain. is cheez ko daryaft daryaft kijiye ke aap by nature aise nahin hain. by conditioning aap aise ho gaye hain. aur yaad rakhiye, nature to yaani
35:41pehlay zamanay mein do lafz hua karte thay: nature aur nurture. nature aur nurture. ab woh behas khatam ho gayi hai. ab jo hai, jo aakhri baat jo saansani study sabit hui hai, woh yahi hai: conditioning ke aadmi paida hota hai ek hi nature, ek hi fitrat par, lekin mahol ka product ban jata hai. woh mahol ka product. to ab is se bachaiye apne aap ko. mislan, main joharpur mein tha, naujawani ki umar mein, to wahan par ek doctor sahib thay, mbbs thay. woh un ke paas mein gaya ke mujhe constipation ka. to unhon ne bataya ke cigarette piya karo.
36:39to main ne waqe'atan cigarette peena shuru kar diya. bohat jald main ne apni aql se socha. mujhe laga ke bilkul galat mashwara diya unhon ne mujhe. aur aakhri ek hi packet mein ne khareeda tha. isi packet ko main ne thora sa piya tha, us waqt us ko phenk diya. yeh thi de-conditioning. to aap yeh na kahiye ke by nature. aap yeh kahiye ke by conditioning. aap apni conditioning ko discover kijiye. is ko cigarette ke packet ki taraf phenk diya dardi ki tokri mein. apni conditioning ko discover kijiye aur us conditioning ko aap litter bin mein phenk dijiye.
37:28yahi hal hai aur koi hal doosra hai nahin. maulana, agla sawal dubai se bheja hai waseem siddiqui sahib ne. unhon ne likha hai: "maulana, recently so many innocent people died in sri lanka suicide attack on the day of easter.