Practical tips for maintaining patience in daily life

Aapa yeh comment aur sawal Muhammad Gul Sahab ne bheja hai Dubai se. Unhon ne likha hai ke "This program is amazing, and it charges me for the whole week." Unka sawal yeh hai ke "What are some practical tips for maintaining strong patience in daily life, especially in the face of challenging or difficult situations?" To is ke bare mein bataein. Practical yahi hai ke waqti tor par ghussa aata hai. Jaise BP shoot kar jaata hai to ghussa aa jaata hai. Waqti tor par aata hai to bas khamosh ho jaen. Maulana jo hain wo bilkul khamosh ho jaate thay aur apni jagah ko badal dein.

Jaise hum baithe hain to walk karne lagen aur is is ek ek kamre mein baithe hain to doosre kamre mein chale jaen. To is se farq padta hai. Agar wahin baithe rahen aur wahi sochte rahen to ghussa badhta chala jaata hai. To apni is ko thoda sa posture ko badal lein aur thoda sa walk karna shuru kar dein. To thoda sa apne aap ko thodi der ke liye ghussa aata hai. To thodi der ke baad phir aadmi sochna shuru kar deta hai ke is ka is ka result kya hai. Foran yeh sochein ke is ka result kya hai.

Ghussa karna to bada acha lagta hai lekin wahi pachtawa, wo jaise criminals hote hain, pachtawa zindagi bhar ka hota hai. To result sochein aur apni jagah ko badal dein. To is se thodi der mein wo ghussa utar jaata hai. Ji, aur log ek aur tareeqa log karte hain ke thanda pani. Hamare ek colleague hain to un ko jab ghussa aata hai, Pathan hain wo, to ghussa aata hai to un ki biwi jo hain un ko thanda pani la ke deti hain. Ji, to wo kehte hain pani peete peete ghussa utar jaata hai. To is tareeqe ki kai cheezein hain jo aadmi is ko kar sakta hai apne hisab se.

Acha Aapa ek aur sawal isi se jodna chahunga ke sabr wala amal jo hai wo result oriented hota hai hamesha. To is ko thoda sa aap wazeh karein. To sabr jo hai wahi be sabri jo hai uska koi result nahin. Is ka result to destruction hai. Aur sabr ka jo hai wo saare hi achhe result jo hain wo sabr se hi hain. Kyunke agar Rasool Allah Sal Allahu Alaihi Wasallam ne aap sochiye ke sabr na kiya hota to kya hota? Makka hi mein sab khatam ho gaye hote. Makka mein jang ho jaati aur itne kam tadad mein log thay, resources thay nahin, wahin ke wahin khatam ho jaate.

Lekin poori zindagi aap ki sabr ki hai. Ab sabr karne se kya hua ke wo jo Michael Hart ne kitaab likhi hai "H undred Men" par to aap ko sab se zyada poori duniya ka sab se zyada kamyab insaan bataya hai. To wo sabr ki wajah se hai. Har mauqe par aap ne sabr kiya aur yeh sochne lage ke is is ko kaise counter karein. Counter strategy kya hai? Agar enemy kuch kar raha hai to us ko hum kaise defeat karein enemy ko jang ke baghair. To is tareeqe se yahi result oriented hai ke hum sochein. Sab se badi cheez jo Allah Ta'ala ne diya hai wo insaan ko dimaag diya hai.

To wo foran dimaag jo hai wo sochna shuru kar deta hai ke ab yeh halaat aise hue hain, ab kya karein? Phir us hamare sab se us ke baad jo hai wo aap hidayat lijiye Quran se, Hadees se, Rasool Allah Sal Allahu Alaihi Wasallam ki zindagi se. Aur aap yeh sab cheezon ko baar baar padhte rahi e, apni zindagi mein apply karte rahiye. To is se aap ko yaad rehna chahiye. Jaise Maulana Sahab ko sab yaad rehta tha. jaise koi moqa aata tha, un ko foran woh verse yaad aa jati thi: wasta'inu bis sabri was salati yeh second chapter mein hai ke tum sabr se aur salat se khuda se madad mango.

to jab aap ko yeh yaad aa jaye ga na, phir aap is par sochne lagen ge. aap ja ke tafseer parhein ge, thora aur detail hasil karein ge is ki. to lekin sabr ko yak tarfa hona chahiye. kyunke agar enemy aap ka strong hai, aap ka jo opponent hai woh strong hai to woh kabhi bhi sabr karne ke liye tayyar nahi ho ga. to sabr aap hi ko karna pare ga. to yeh yak tarfa hona chahiye. aur is aur rasool Allah sal Allah alaihi wasallam ne hamesha yak tarfa tor par sabr kiya hai. to aur doosre yeh ke Allah taala ne insan ko qabar mein paida hi kiya gaya hai. aur yeh dunya jo hai woh darul imtihan hai.

to is dunya mein is se chhutti hi nahi hai ke hum sabr karein. agar matlab agar hum ko kamyabi hasil karni hai to hamein sabr karna hai. agar hum ko apne ko destroy karna hai to hum ko sabr ki koi zaroorat nahi hai. ek hadith hai: inna an nasra ma as sabri to sabr hi ke sath kamyabi hai. to is liye yeh hamare liye bilkul clear hai ke hum ko agar kamyabi hasil karni hai to hamein sabr karna hai. to bar bar ayatein bhi hain aur bar bar rasool Allah sal Allah alaihi wasallam ne apne ashaab se fermaya. kyunke ashaab ko bhi tamam quraish ke log pareshan karte the.

to aap un ko kehte the: sabr karo, sabr karo. quran ki ek ayat hai chapter al imran mein ke: aey logon! sabr karo ta ke tum falah pao. to aap dekh rahe hain ke besabri ka jo amal hai woh counter productive hai. is se kuch nateeja nahi nikalne wala hai. aur sabr wale amal se jo bhi nateeja aap nikalna chahte hain woh nikal sakta hai. kyunke Allah taala ne yahi nizam hi rakha hai ke sabr ke wala jo amal hai usi mein Allah ki madad madad mile gi.

to hamein yeh sab baatein apni zindagi mein apply karna chahiye. soch samajh kar apni zindagi ko ko har kaam karna chahiye. acha apa agar quran mein dekhein to ek ayat mein aya hai ke: "Those who believe, forgive when they are angry." lekin aksar hum dekhte hain ke log confrontation mein aa jate hain. woh i'raaz yaani avoidance ke principle ko nahi jante. jabke agar hum dekhein ke quran mein sau dafa se ziyada i'raaz aur sabr ke baray mein zikr kiya gaya hai. to dono mein kya taluq hai sabr aur i'raaz mein?

is ke baray mein bataein. dono related hi hain. Avoidance aur sabr dono ek hi coin ke jaise do aspect hote hain na. ji to isi tarah se hai. avoid karte hain. avoid karne ka matlab bhi sabri karna hai aur sabr karne ka matlab bhi avoid hi karna hai. dono mein bohat ziyada farq nahi hai. to bohat sare alfaaz hote hain na ek hi haqeeqat ko batane ke liye. to quran mein aya hai: "wa'riz anil jahileen" i'raaz karo. to i'raaz karo yaani jo jahil logon ka matlab hai ke jo baaton ko nahi samajhte.

to baaton ko samajh nahi rahe hain is wajah se woh mukhalifat kar rah e hain. to un ko thora sa time lage ga baaton ko samajhne mein. to is liye un ko time dena chahiye. aur yeh bilkul psychology ke mutabiq hai insan ki. ke insan ko baaton ko samajhne mein time lagta hai. jab woh ek conditioned mind hota hai, mature ho chuka hota hai to us ko samajhne mein baat ko time lagta hai. to hamein is is is haqeeqat se ab adjust karna hai. ke logon ko time dena hai, un ko tarah tarah se samjhane ki koshish karna hai.

aur isi tareeqe se woh ek din aisa hoga. aur tamam paighambaron ko dekhiye shuru mein logon ne mukhalifat ki. lekin baad mein unhon ne inhi logon ne samajh. aur khaas taur par rasool Allah sal Allah alaihi wasallam. to is ko jab time un ko mila to dheere dheere un ko baat samajh mein aane lagi. aur is mein khaas taur par hazrat yoon s dekhiye. hazrat yunus ne bohat dinon tak apne logon ko Khuda ka paigham pohanchaya. aur woh baaton ko samajh nahi rahe the. phir woh chhod kar chale gaye.

phir unhon ne is ne machhli ne un ko nigal liya. phir un ko ehsas hua ke unhon ne ghalati ki hai. phir woh dobara gaye. phir inhi logon ne saare ke saare logon ne un ki baat ko maan liya. un ke follower ban gaye. to yeh hai. dekhiye dunya mein adjustment to har halat mein karna hi padta hai. to adjustment agar hum apne interest ke liye karein to bas is ka faida dunya mein hi milega. aur agar hum adjustment akhirat ke liye karein, adjustment Khuda ka paigham pohanchane ke liye karein to is se hamein bohat bara faida milega. Allah taala ki madad milegi aur Allah ki blessings milengi. aur jo hai mahol normal ho j

aye ga. mahol normal ho jayega to bohat aasani se hum Khuda ki baaton ko doosron tak pohancha sakte hain. jo ke hamari zimmedari hai. ek misaal aap ko deti hoon. bohat sari misalein hain. jab rasool Allah sal Allah alaihi wasallam ke zamane mein jab ek badu masjid mein aa gaya tha, us ne masjid gandi kar di thi. to sahaba daude is ke is ko marne ke liye e. to rasool Allah sal Allah alaihi wasallam ne kaha ke woh jagah saaf kar do pani se, ek dol ke pani se. aur is ko koi kuch nahi kaha.

ab woh isi par itna mutasir ho gaya. apne qabile mein ja ke sab se kehta hai ke dekho maine un ki masjid ko, un ki ibadat gah ko ganda kar diya tha. unhon ne mujhe kuch nahi kaha, mujhe jharaka nahi aur mujhe is tareeqe se jaane diya baghair kuch kahe hue. to woh sab se kehta hai ke Muhammad itne achhe aadmi hain. phir yahan tak ke poora poora qabila rasool Allah sal Allah alaihi wasallam ka follower ban gaya. to yeh jo hai hamare tamam masail jo hai hal karta hai. adjust

ment dunya ke bhi aur akhirat ke bhi. agar hum Khuda ke liye karenge, koi bhi kaam jab hum Khuda ke liye karte hain to is mein bohat zyada is ka ajar milta hai hamein. aur dunya mein karte hain to dunya ki kamyabi is mein milti hai. to khaas taur par hum chuki hamara mission jo hai is ke hisab se hamein Khuda ka paigham logon tak pohanchana hai. to hamein is baat ka khaas khayal rakhna hai ke hamein har hal mein adjust karna hai. dawati maslehat ki wajah se. log to adjust kar hi rahe hain lekin woh un ke andar jo log bahar rehte hain to dawati maslehat un ko woh nahi samajhte.

apne apne mafaadat ki wajah se woh adjust karte hain. to is se is mein koi un ko is ka ajar nahi milega. to yeh hai. adjustment jo hai na bohat zyada zaroori hai. ji jazak Allah aap ka. apa aakhri sawal poochne se pehle yeh teen comments padhna chahoon ga a. kafi comments aa rahe hain lekin ab waqt bhi ho gaya hai. yeh comment bheja hai Imran Ahmed sahab ne dilli se. unhon ne likha hai: "Mashallah Apa, sabr usool ke tehat apni zindagi mein shamil karna bohat aham baat hai. majboori ke tehat to log sabr karte hi hain lekin ideal yeh hai ke hum apne usool banayein ke hum taqat rakhte hue bhi sabr karein." Jazak Allah Apa.

Muhammad Yaqoob Umri sahab ne likha hai: "Jazak Allah Apa for the valuable lecture on sabr. sabr means supporting the creation plan of God. This is an important point about sabr." Khalid Ansari sahib ne Dilli se likha hai: "Practicing sabr gives enough time to take corrective decisions. Time is a big healer and practicing sabr saves one from hectic decisions." Aapa aakhri sawal mera yeh hai ke Maulana Wahiduddin Khan sahib ne to bohat zyada emphasize kiya hai sabr par. Unhon ne articles bhi likhe hain.

To unhon ne yeh bhi kaha tha ek dafa ke social life mein jo sabr kare, logon ke yani logon ke darmiyan rehte hue, to uska sawab kai zyada hai. To aisa kyun kaha unhon ne? Ya iske bare mein thoda sa bataein hum sab ko. Asal mein aadmi jab apne ghar mein rehta hai to itna zyada usko sabr karne ki zaroorat hi nahi parti hai. Uski marzi ke mutabiq sab kaam hota rehta hai. Lekin jab ijtimaiyat jo hoti hai, jab sab logon ke sath mil kar kaam karna hota hai, jaise hamara mission hai, mil kar kaam karna hota hai, to wahan par sabr ki zyada zaroorat hoti hai.

To tarah tarah se isko aisa lagta hai ke uska appreciation nahi ho raha hai, usko ignore kiya ja raha hai, usko ahmiyat nahi di ja rahi hai. Koi baat se woh offend ho jata hai. To har aadmi itna soch samajh ke baat nahi karta. Kuch baat keh diya to woh offend ho gaya. To yeh sari cheezein jo hain bar bar woh bar bar usko tajurba hota rehta hai. To us waqt agar woh Allah ki khatir sabr kare to yeh bohat bari baat hai. Kyunke agar woh family mein apni sabr karega to woh to apni family ko unite rakhne ke liye, family ke interest ke liye sabr kare

ga na. Lekin agar bahar sabr kar raha hai aur kuch jo ijtimaiyat hoti hai, jahan koi social life hoti hai ya hakoomat hoti hai, us mein bhi bohat kuch sabr karna parta hai. Mission chal rahe hote hain, us mein sabr karna parta hai. Aur woh phir woh Allah ki khatir sabr kare to woh jo hai woh bohat zyada important hota hai. To jitna zyada usko is mein takleef hoti hai to utna hi zyada us us ko is mein sabr milta hai. To yeh khaas baat hai Islam ki ke agar hamein koi bhi takleef pohanchti hai, kehte hain ke ek kaanta bhi chubhta hai to phir hamein uska ajr milta hai, uska sawab Allah taala dete hain.

To hamein har waqt bas Khuda ko yaad rakhna hai aur Khuda ki marzi ke mutabiq apna har kaam karna hai. To uska sawab hamein har amal ka sawab milega. Sirf aisa nahi hai ke sirf namazi roze ka sawab milega. To apne apne imaan ki hifazat ke liye insaan ko chahiye ke woh be masla, be shikayat insaan ban jaye. Jisko Maulana kehte the "no problem person." To no problem person ban jana yeh hamare apne liye acha hai. Kyunke hum hamara ek goal hona chahiye aur us goal mein koi distraction nahi hona chahiye. To yeh sari cheezein distract karti hain. Ab maine kai bar dekha hai ke jo jahil log hote hain, jahil aurtein hot

hain, ab woh har waqt unki shikayat, unki shikayat baith ke karti rehti hain. To woh uski wajah se kya hai ke woh improve apne aap ko nahi karti. Bas jo unko jitna aata hai kaam, bas utna hi aata hai. Kyunke woh har waqt doosron ki shikayaton mein lagi rah ti hain. To agar hum bhi educated log bhi yahi karein ke har waqt doosron ki shikayat mein lage rahein, doosre ke khilaf plan karte rahein, to hum apne potentials ko awaken nahi kar sakein ge, apne potential ko realize nahi kar sakein ge, actualize nahi kar sakein ge. To is liye bohat zyada zaroori hai ke hum apne aap ko bachayein. "Save yourself." Jo Maulana kehte the, yeh bohat zyada zaroori hai.

To is ke liye hamein apni negativity to dekhiye aaye gi. Insaan aam taur par bohat sensitive hota hai. Zara zara si baat mein usko takleef pohanch jati hai. To woh jo negativity hai, us ko hamein positivity mein convert karna hai. Tarah tarah se us ko reason out kar ke convert karna hai taake woh jo hai woh negativity ko khatam kar d ev. Maulana ka to bohat hi oonchi darja tha, woh to woh negative negative baat ko suntay hi nahi thay. Hum log to suntay hain, to hum suntay hain to phir hum us ko chahiye kay hum us ko reason out kar kay negativity ko convert karain positivity mein. Misal kay tor par agar kisi say aik takleef ho gayi hai humein to us ki bohat sari achi baatein hongi, woh hum us ko yaad karain kay us nay humaray sath itna sari achay kaam kiye hain.

To bohat tareeqay say hum us ko reason out kar saktay hain. Yahi karain kay agar hum negative ho jayain gay to hamari personality apni, apna hamara nuqsan hoga. To yeh hai kay us ko har cheez ko hum Allah kay khane mein dalain. Hum yeh sochay kay Allah nay yahi dunya banai hai, yahi to Allah ki marzi kay mutabiq hi humay is dunya mein rehna hai. Jab Allah keh raha hai kay tum positive insan bano, apna tazkiya karo, to hum humay yahi karna hai. To is tareeqay say hum apnay aap ko, apni negativity ko apna hum khatam kar saktay hain aur aik dam complaint free insan ban saktay hain. To yahan phir mein wahi yaad dilaoongi aik qissa kay aik bar Rasool Allah Sal Allah o Alaihe Wasallam nay kisi insan, koi sahabi ja rahay thay rastay mein, kaha kay yeh jannati insan hai jabkay jannati to bataya nahi jata tha kay kon jannati hai, kon jannati nahi hai.

To ab logon ko bari curiosity hui kay kyun is is kay baray mein aap nay kaha kay woh jannati hai. Log gay wahan par maloom karnay kay liye to teen din us kay pas rahay. Kyunkay pehlay zamanay mein teen din koi bhi kisi kay ghar bhi mehman reh sakta tha. Woh us say poocha nahi, poochay gay to pata nahi us ki samajh mein ayega kiya bataye, kiya na bataye. Us ko dekhnay gay kay aakhir woh aisa kon sa amal karta hai kay us ki wajah say us ko jannati bataya gaya hai. To dekha kay wahi namaz roza jo sab kartay thay, wahi woh bhi karta tha. To jab teen din ho gaya to us nay poocha kay aakhir aap aaye thay to koi maqsad raha hoga aap kay aanay ka?

To to ab unhonay bataya kay mein nay aisa peghambar say suna tha, to wahi mein dekhnay aaya tha. To yahan to mein nay kuch khaas extraordinary cheez pai nahi. To us nay yeh kaha kay mein apnay andar, us nay kaha mein amal to wahi hai, namaz roza wahi sab sab kartay hain, Wahi mein bhi karta hoon, lekin mein apnay andar kisi kay liye koi ghil, jis ko hum malice keh saktay hain, koi ghil nahi pata. To humay apnay andar say malice ko jo kisi bhi wajah say par jaye, to woh usay woh nikal nikal kay, kharch kharch kay, us ko phenk dena hai.

To is tareeqay say hum apna mukammal tazkiya kar payain gay. Aur tazkiya jo hai, bohat ziyada zaroori hai. Tazkiya kay baray mein Maulana nay likha hai kay purified personality jo hai, woh akhirat mein us kay liye jannat kay darwazay apnay aap khultay chalay jayain gay. Jaisay remote control system hota hai na, aaj kal bari bari buildingon mein darwazay khultay chalay jatay hain, to aisay hi us kay liye jannat kay darwazay khultay chalay jayain gay. To tazkiya aap samajh saktay hain kay kitna ziyada zaroori hai

Humay apna tazkiya karna. Aur tazkiya jo hai, us kay liye sabar zaroori hai. To ijtamai zindagi mein dekhiye, aik to mil jul kar kaam karna jo hai bohat ziyada zaroori hai. Kyunkay agar aik mission chal raha hai to yeh zimmedari hoti hai kay sab log us ko support karain. To us mein mein aik misal doongi Saad Ibn Ubadah ki kay jab Rasool Allah Sal Allah o Alaihe Wasallam Madina gay aur wahan logon nay aap ko sardar bana liya to yeh jo hain qabailay kay sardar thay, yeh To un logon ko aasani say un logon nay accept nahi kiya. Lekin us waqt to chounkay ab Rasool Allah thay to maan liya.

Lekin baad mein jab Hazrat Abu Bakr khaleefa huay, tab Hazrat Abu Bakr aur Hazrat Umar khaleefa huay to un ko yeh baat jo hai bohat ziyada shock lagi ho kay yeh woh to leader thay qabailay kay aur bohat hi un ka bara qabaila tha. To woh sham chalay Gay. Unhonay support karnay kay bajaye Hazrat Abu Bakr ka zamanay, Hazrat Umar ka zamanay jo tha, us mein Hazrat Abu Bakr kay zamanay mein to khaas tor par bohat ziyada halaat kharab thay. to un ko support karne ke bajaye unhon ne woh sham chale gaye. to woh yeh cheez jo hai bilkul hi acceptable nahi hai.

ek divine mission jab chal raha ho to to kehte hain ke un ke jab intaqal hua to logon ne yeh awaz suni: "hum ne khazraj ke sardar sa'd ibn ibada ko qatl kiya hai." to ab yeh awaz suni to Maulana ne kahin likha hai ke shayad jinnu ki awaz thi yeh. to yeh bohat zyada ghalat baat hai ke agar hum ek divine mission chal raha hai to us ko koi na koi pretext par ke kisi ne humein yeh keh diya, kisi ne humein woh keh diya, ya humein jo hai ignore kiya ja raha hai, humein appreciation nahi mil raha hai, yeh keh ke alag hona hi jo hai bohat bohat bara risk log le rahe hain. kisi halat mein bhi koi mission is tarah ka chal raha ho, dawah mission to us ko us mein jo laga hua hai, us ko alag nahi hona chahiye balkeh bardasht karna chahiye.

aur jo sabr bardasht ka jo ajr hai, us par nazar honi chahiye ke dunya mein bhi woh us ko ajr milega aur akhirat mein us ke badle mein jannat milegi. jazak Allah apa, thank you for doing this important session today. so, we we'll end today session and we'll be back next Sunday 10:30 am. thank you.