Managing stress and work-life balance

maulana, agla sawal aaya hai mr suleash malhotra ka, singapore se. unhon ne likha hai: "in today stressfull times, please share your views on how we all can manage our stress levels and are able to maintain a good work life balance and always maintain positive thinking." dekhein, jahan tak maine samjha hai, stress stress kya hai? us ko us ki analysis kijiye. stress mein jahan tak maine samjha hai, stress naam hai is baat ka ke aadmi is se zyada paana chahe jo woh apni capacity ke aitbaar se pa sakta hai. agar aap apni capacity ko jaanein aur usi par aap aap contentment ho jayein, to na koi tension hai, na koi stress hai.

lekin har aadmi more and more ka target banaya rehta hai. yeh more and more ka jo jo target hai, yahi wajah hai stress ki aur tension ki. isi liye islam mein jo hal bataya gaya hai, woh hai qanaat. qanaat ka matlab hai contentment. qadfun min rozay ka kafaaf wa kana Allah ma ata. to contentment jo hai, us ka matlab kya hai? yaani qanaat ya contentment ka matlab kya hai? woh yeh matlab nahi kam par raazi hona, possible par raazi hona.

yeh matlab hai qanaat ka. aadmi possible aur impossible mein farq kare, achievable aur non achievable mein farq kare. to har aadmi ko stress free life mil jayegi, koi mushkil nahi. dekhein, is duniya mein koi super power bhi afford nahi kar sakta is ko ke woh apne apne taqat se aage chhalang lagaye. to woh afford nahi kar sakta. misaal ke taur par communist roos ko dekhiye, woh daakhil ho gaya afghanistan mein, fauj ne daakhil kar diya apni. to is ke liye phir affordable nahi tha, shikast kha kar wapas jaana pada un ko. aise hi america jo hai, iraq mein daakhil ho gaya, woh bhi mein bataoon ke affordable nahi tha woh, aur wapas jaana pada is ko das saal ke baad vietnam se das saal wapas aana pada.

to chahe koi individual ho, chahe koi super power ho, woh is ko is baat ko jaanna chahiye, is had ko ke is kya cheez is ke liye yaani achievable hai, kya achievable nahi. jo achievable na ho, us ko kabhi target na kare, woh kabhi na kare. jo achievable hai, us ko usi ko target kare. magar mushkil yeh hai ke na fard is ko yaani is par dhyan deta, na na bari bari hukoomatein jo bhi dhyan de paati hain. natija yeh hai ke sab pareshan hain. jis ko dekho, sab pareshan hain. jo bare bare jo president aur prime minister hain, woh sleeping pe sleeping pe kha kar sote hain. isi liye ke woh har ek chhalang lagai hui hai, har ek jump ki hui hai more and more ki taraf. to main sochta hoon ke is ke liye ek prize deni pare gi.

woh yeh hai ke more and more ka jo concept hai, is ko khatam karna, is ko aur contentment par apne aap ko le ana. koi doosra option nahi is ke liye, is ke siwa. united states jo hai, super power banaya jata hai. dekhiye, first world war aur second world war ke darmiyan jo hai, bohat hi zyada peace tha america mein. bohat khush thay log, kyunke us waqt kya nazariya tha un ka ke "da business of america is business". yeh tha un ka nazariya. yani first world war aur second world war ke darmiyan jo tha, motto usa ka bas itna hi tha ke "da business of america is business".

second world war ke baad badal gaya. woh unhon ne kaha ke hum leadership, world leadership un ka target bana liya. unhon ne tab se sare problem mein ghira hua hai america. to woh is ke bas mein tha ke product tayyar karo aur duniya mein becho. to possible tha is ke liye, lekin sari duniya ko ke upar woh leadership qaim karo, yeh to possible nahi tha. to bas hoga, is ka is ki economy tabah ho gayi. har har har aitbar se nuqsan hua is ko. yeh individual ka muamla hai. main Allah ke fazl se bilkul meri zindagi peaceful zindagi meri hai, kyunke meri koi zaroorat hi nahi. main to need se bhi kam par jeeta hoon, jo jo real need hai, us se bhi kam par jeene ki koshish karta hoon.

to mujhe sleep, yani sound sleep aati hai, mashallah, aur koi mujhe pareshani nahi hai. to dekhiye, stress free life ke liye ek prize dena hai. woh prize kya hai? more and more se apne ko bachana, contentment par apne ko razi karna. bas, aur koi hal hai ke nahi? married life ho, chahe company ki zindagi ho ya kahin bhi ho, har aadmi is cheez ko chahne lagta hai jo is ke liye achievable nahi hai. woh chahne lagta hai. to aap is ko soch kar daryaft kijiye ke woh kaun si cheez hai jo aap ke liye achievable hai aur kaun si cheez hai jo aap ke liye achievable nahi hai, aur us par razi ho jaiye.

to bas, is ke baad peace hi peace hai. mera tajurba to yahi hai. mera mera jo experience hai, woh yahi hai. maulana, agla sawal karachi se aya hai miss saira latif ka. unhon ne likha hai: "mera sawal yeh hai ke aaj ki khawateen apna zyada tar waqt aur salahiyat sirf apni madi sahulaton ki nazar kiye hue hain.