Deferring gratification until afterlife

maulana, yeh sawal aaya hai patna se mister anwar imam ghazali ka. unhone likha hai: "i would like to know how one can make it easy for oneself to defer the gratification of desires till the post death period, especially today when one sees possibility of instant gratification all around." bhai, mera jo tajurba hai ya mera jo state hai, mein to samajhta hoon kuch cheez milti nahi. yeh sirf ek ek milne se pehle to lagta hai ke hum yeh pa jayen to hum ko bohat hi achi cheez mil jayegi hum ko. lekin jab pa leta hai aadmi, to maloom hota hai kuch nahi. jaise ek sath meri mulaqat hui, unhone love marriage ki hai. maine un se poocha ke love marriage ka kya tajurba aap ko hai? ek top ke aadmi se poocha maine. unhone kaha ke jab tak marriage nahi hui thi, tab to lagta tha ke love marriage koi bohat bari cheez hai. mein aasman mein ud raha tha, jab mujhe ho gayi to zameen mein aa gaya.

ab kuch nahi, wohi same love marriage jo hai, mujhe ab kuch nahi dikhai padti. ab normal lagti hai. woh aisi jis ko bhi mein mein ne padha, jis ko bhi abhi mein ne internet par likhwa ya, nikala, nikalwaya, woh ke jo super achievers hain, un ki zindagi khatm kaise hui? to sab despair mein mare, sab ke sab. to milti kahan woh cheez? to ek fareb hai ke hum is cheez ko pa lete hain. to sab se bara question to yahi hai ke kya wajah hai ke hum hum ko fulfillment, fulfillment, fulfillment nahi milta is duniya mein? jo hum chahte hain, woh hum paate nahi is duniya mein. yeh thori hai ke pa lete hain hum. yeh to ek fareb ki baat hai. mein samajhta hoon ke sab se bara question jo insan ke liye hai, woh yahi hai ke kya wajah hai ke hum jo kuch chahna chahte hain, jo kuch hum chahte hain paana, wohi paane paate nahi hum?

isi se hum mehroom rehte hain aur mar jate hain. paane se pehle lagta hai ke yeh ek cheez mil hi mil jayegi, to hamein bari khushi hogi, hum bohat enjoy karenge. lekin paane ke baad kahan hota hai? paane ke baad kuch nahi hota. bill gates ko bhi kuch nahi hai. ab jab jab woh shuru mein usko khushiyan nahi hongi, ab toh zindagi uske liye kuch bhi nahi hai, sivaye liability ke. toh yeh main samajhta hoon ke yeh soch sahi nahi hai ke is duniya mein hum kuch pa lete hain. paane se pehle hum zaroor samajhte hain ke hum paane ke baad hum ko khushi mil jayegi. ek kitaab likhi hai isne, bert russell ne, uska naam hi hai "happiness". is mein likhta hai ke happiness achievable nahi is duniya mein. aur waqea hai, aap kisi bhi kisi bhi shakhs ko dekhiye jo bare martabe pahuncha ho, jisne bare paise kamaye hon, uska end kya hota hai?

end uska khatma toh aap dekhein ke frustration mein, despair mein khatam hota hai. woh kyunke woh paane ke baad, jo usne apne mind mein samjha tha ke is se mujhe yeh milega, woh milega, woh kuch mila nahi usko. toh asal sawal toh yahi hai ke kya wajah hai ke hum is duniya mein, hum paane ke bawajood mehroom rehte hain? isi sawal ko jab hum jaan lein, tab paradise hamari goal ban jayegi ke wahan par hamein fulfillment milega. maulana, agla sawal aaya hai kashmir se mr hilal ahmad ka. unhone likha hai ke "i am very impressed with you right from my very childhood when i was in class seventh.