Advising a Short-Tempered Son to Be Patient
“Moulana sahab, my son is fifteen years old and a very short-tempered boy. Even though I try my best to teach him to be patient, he does not listen. I want your advice on how to convey to him that keeping patience is like inviting God's help.”Asked by Doctor Arslan, Lucknow
He answers at 59:38 in Dars-e-Quran, Chapter 2, Verses 44-46 · 2 min 33 sec
59:38maz ko makkah aur madinah ke dawah dawati mahol mein samajhna hai. jazak allah." maulana, agla sawal lete hain jo doctor arsalan ne bheja hai lucknow se. unhone likha hai: "maulana sahab! my son is fifteen years old and a very short tempered boy. even though i try my best to teach him to be patient, b t hi does not listen. I want your advice as to how to convey him that keeping patience is like inviting God's help. how can he be changed? dekhiye, is ko change nahi karna hai.
1:00:23aap log apne aap ko change kijiye. jittne aise bachche hote hain, woh maa baap ki pampering se bante hain. woh aap aur aap ki aliya apni pampering ko khatm kijiye.
1:00:44ghalti aap ki taraf hai aur is ko aap lagate hain beti ki taraf. is mein koi shaq nahi, koi shaq nahi ke aap aur aap ki biwi ki pampering ne bachchon ko aisa banaya hai. is mein mein yeh add karunga ke maa baap ko nazar hi nahi aata.
1:01:05mein aise maa baap ko jaanta hoon jo apne bachchon ki pampering karte the aur jab un ko toka gaya to kaha: nahi, mein to kuch nahi karta. khud ba khud mere baap, mere jo baap the, meri pampering karte the. khud mere baap mere phupha ko rokte the to woh samajhte the ke mein to kuch nahi karta.
1:01:33mere baap ki death ho gayi jab mein chhe saal ka tha. ab bilkul pampered baap bana hua tha. main main khud pampered baap bana hua tha. to mere baap ki death ho gayi, tab mere andar nayi zindagi shuru hui. aap ghalati aap karte hain, ab dalte hain bachche ke upar: "your boy is pampered boy. is ko khatm kijiye, phir sab kuch theek ho jayega. maulana, agla sawal kashmir se bheja hai riyaz bhat sahib ne.