Why we overlook our own mistakes
“Often others' mistakes are quickly discovered, but one's own mistake is not discovered even after thinking. What is this problem and how can we overcome it?”Asked by Abdul Basit Umari, Doha, Qatar
He answers at 1:04:54 in Living in Falsehood · 2 min 21 sec
1:04:54maulana, agla sawal Doha, Qatar se hai. maulana Abdul Basit Umri ne kiya hai. unhone likha hai: "Maulana, aksar doosron ki ghaltiyan fori discover hoti hain, lekin apni ghalti sochne par bhi discover nahi hoti." Maulana, yeh kya masla hai is ke bare mein aap hamein batayein. dekhein aadmi ke andar bohat zyada yeh bhara hua hai ke "I am right, I am right." "I am wrong" yeh bhara hua nahi hai. apne aap ko sahi samajhna, yaani Right Wish Thinking, yeh bohat bhara hua hai insaan ke andar.
1:05:34to jab tak aap apne khilaf sochne ka zehan develop na karein, tab tak aap nahi samajh payenge. yaani Anti-Self Thinking agar aap ke andar hogi, tab aisa hoga ke aap apne ghaltiyon ko pakad payenge. to main samajhta hoon ke is ka ek tareeqa yeh hai ke ek to aap apne andar Anti-Self Thinking paida karein. doosri baat yeh honi chahiye ke doosra shakhs agar aap par criticize karta hai to bohat positively leijiye, react mat kijiye.
1:06:19kyun ke doosra aadmi jo hai woh kisi obsession mein nahi hai aap ke bare mein. aap ko dekhta hai woh bohat hi, yaani indifferent ho kar ke. to kai baar aisa hota hai ke woh point out kar pata hai doosra aadmi. to aadmi ke andar agar do sifat hain, ek to ek apna muhasiba, jo kehte hain Anti-Self Thinking. muhasibe hi ka doosra naam Anti-Self Thinking. yeh ho. aur doosri baat yeh ke criticism ko woh hamesha positively par le. criticism par provoke na ho, criticism par ghussa na ho. criticism ko kisi ghalt ma'ni mein na le.
1:07:01yeh do sifatें hain. to yaqeenan insaan sachai tak pahunch sakta hai. So it is two point formula. maulana, agla sawal Chennai se hai. Khalil ur Rehman sahib ka. unhone likha hai: "Molana, your thought-provoking speeches inspire us.