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Ethics & Character · Q&A

Controlling anger and its consequences

“You say anger is a satanic act and often a person says foolish things in anger. In anger, one says such words that create discord between people.”Asked by احمد علی, دلی

He answers at 56:59 in The Road to Paradise · 4 min 32 sec

His answer, in his own words
56:59
maulana, agla sawal dilli se kiya hai ahmed ali sahib ne aur unhon ne likha hai: maulana kehte hain ghussa shaitani amal hai aur aksar insan ghusse mein be-aqal ki baatein keh baithta hai. ghusse mein aise alfaaz keh deta hai jis se aapas mein ikhtilaf paida ho jata hai. jab ghussa thanda hota hai phir afsos hota hai lekin us waqt afsos karne ka faida nahi hota.
57:23
is halaat se kaise bachein aur apne ghusse par kaise control karein, is ke bare mein hamein guidance dein. dekhiye, ghussa shaitani amal hai, yeh baat result ke aitbar se hai, nateeja ke aitbar se hai. khud ghussa shaitan nahi hai. main samajhta hoon ke ghussa ek natural baat hai, ghussa sab ko aata hai, ghussa peghambar ko bhi aata hai.
57:47
hazrat moosa ko ghussa aaya, rasool allah ko ghussa aaya. jahan tak maine samjha hai, jo mera apna tajruba hai aur is par amal karta hoon, ghusse ka ilaaj bohat hi aasaan hai, bohat hi aasaan hai. woh yeh hai ke jab ghussa aaye to chup ho jaiye, bas kuch mat kijiye, chup ho jaiye.
58:11
main yahi karta hoon, mujhe bohat ghussa aata hai, mere andar bohat ghussa hai, jaise hi ghussa aata hai, main bolta nahin hoon, chup ho jata hoon. to dekhiye, nature mein ek process hai, automatic process, woh hai ghusse ko diffuse karne ka. Automatic process hai.
58:35
Ghussa bhi natural phenomena hai aur us ko diffuse karna bhi ek natural process hai. to jab main ghusse ke baad chup ho jata hoon to kya hota hai? mera woh natural process jo hai, woh foran active ho jata hai, yani diffuse karne ka. Within minutes sab diffuse ho jata hai.
58:59
apne aap hi woh nature ka jo process hai, woh apne aap hi us ko diffuse kar de ga. ab dekhiye, agar aap ghussa aaye aur bolne lage to kya hoga? sunne wala react kare ga. to kya hoga? phir chain reaction ban jaye ga. aap bole, woh bola, woh bole, phir aap bole.
59:23
That is chain reaction. aur chup rehne se kya hota hai? ke chain reaction banta hi nahin. jo burai hai, woh chain reaction hai, khud ghussa nahin hai. Ghussa apne aap mein burai nahin hai.
59:47
Ghussa is waqt burai ban jata hai jabke woh chain reaction ban jaye. to aap bolen ge to doosra bole ga, to aap bolen ge. That is chain reaction. to jab aap chup rehte hain to chain reaction se aap logon ko bachate hain.
1:00:11
bohat hi simple method hai is ka. bas chup ho jaiye aur kuch mat kijiye, chup ho jaiye. kuch mat kijiye, chup ho jaiye. to aap chain reaction se bach jayen ge aur dhire dhire sara bara diffuse ho jayega.
1:00:35
aap jab chahen is ka tajurba kar ke dekh lijie. main ne to bar bar kiya hai, aap bhi kar ke dekh lijie. tajurba yani yahan par nature aap ke support ke liye maujood hai. yani ghusse ko diffuse karne ke liye khud nature mein mechanism maujood hai.
1:00:59
aap is ko mauqa dijie. Give nature a chance. Give your nature a chance. wo kya hai? wo sirf chup ho jana.
1:01:21
aap kabhi bhi tajurba kar ke dekh lijie. main to bar bar isi par amal hai. maulana, agla sawal lene se pehle ek comment parhna chahen ge jo rana imran khan sahab ne bheja
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