Explanation of Quran 4:34

hmm, maulana, agla sawal farhan khan sahib ka hai, mumbai sa. unhon ne likha hai: "maulana, could you explain the verse number 34 of nisa in quran, which reads: men are in charge of women by what allah has given one over the other, and what they spend from their wealth? so righteous women are dutifully obedient guarding in the husbands absence, what allah would have them guard. but those wives from whom you fear arrogance, first advise them, then if they persist, forsake them in bed, and finally strike them.

but if they obey you once more, seek no means against them. indeed, allah is ever exalted and grand. maulana sahib, my question is: how can the quran condone domestic violence? "dekhiye, aap pehle meri do kitabein parhiye: khatoon islam aur aurat memar insaniyat. is ko parhne ke baad aap question kijiye. mere khayal se aap ne abhi hamari kitabein parhi nahi hain, is liye aap yeh sab question kar rahe hain. kitabein, yeh dono kitabein parh kar ke phir aap sochiye ke aap ka question jo hai, answer hua ke nahi.

mujhe yaqeen hai ke aap ke question ka aap khud hi aap ko answer mil jayega. maulana, un ka aik aur sawal hai, unhon ne likha hai: "what is your take on love marriage?