Love marriage permissibility and Prophet's marriage

mujhe yaqeen hai ke aap ke question ka aap khud hi aap ko answer mil jayega. maulana, un ka aik aur sawal hai, unhon ne likha hai: "what is your take on love marriage? do you think it is permitted in islam? would you agree that the marriage of the prophet and khadijah was also a love marriage?" ji sahib, ab start baat hai, main love marriage ko ahmaqana marriage samajhta hoon, yani pagalon ki marriage, pagalon ki. is liye ke dekhiye, aap love marriage hoti hai, tootta kyun hai? yani more than 50 percent love marriages nakam ho jati hain. to what is that love marriage? jo pagal pan ki shadiyan hoti hain, usay kehte hain love marriage. india se le kar europe, america tak har jagah love marriage nakam hai.

to nakam kyun? agar woh love hai to nakam kyun? nakam kyun? italy mein aik sahib se baat hui thi, isi par woh wahan ke aik professor sahib thay. to main ne kaha ke yeh isi baat ko main ne kaha ke agar yeh love marriage hai to nakam kyun hoti hai? to main ne kaha ke yeh love marriage hoti hi nahi, yeh lust marriage hoti hai. lust marriage hoti hai, love marriage hoti hi nahi. to unhon ne maan maan rakha, sahi keh rahe hain aap. nahi sahib, bilkul, yani main is ko jahilon ki batein samajhta hoon, jis ka ilm se, science se koi talluq nahi.

maulana farhan sahib ko yeh bhi batana chahenge ke woh aap ki jo kitab hai, secret of successful marriage life, us ko parh sakte hain. haan, wohi parhiye, woh bhi hai. maulana, sab se zyada meaningless word jo boler ka is zamane mein hai, woh love marriage hai. main apni zindagi mein, apni family mein, aur beshumar waqiat dekhe hain ke dhoom se love marriage hoti hai aur dhoom se woh nakam ho jati hai. tab main jo keh raha hoon ke love marriage, love marriage nahi hoti hai, woh lust marriage hoti hai. to tajrube ko dekh kar main keh raha hoon, khwamkhwah nahi keh raha hoon.

kam az kam main ne aik bhi lab marriage kamyab nahi dekhi apni family ke andar, family ke bahar. ya to toot jati hai ya bas nibhate hain log bache ki wajah se, zyada tar bache ki wajah se. bachcha paida hoga, ab kya karen? to aurat se jo lo hoti hai, wo khatm ho ja ho chuki hoti hai. ab sirf bete hote hain. maine kisi ko bhi nahin dekha ke aurat se lo unki akhrron tak baqi rahe. ya to toot jati hai ya bachchon ke upar.

main aap ko ek qissa batata hoon. main gaya ek bar ajmer, mila taqrib mein tha, mila taqribin sahib. to wahan par ek sahib the, unke do bete the. ek bete ko unhon ne dukan de di, doosre bete ne kaha ke mujhe falan aurat se shadi karni hai. to us us aurat se unhon ne shadi karwai aur us ke liye ek ek farmhouse bana diya. paise wale the wo. is farmhouse mein hum gaye, ek raat rahe wahan par, aur maine dekha ke wo wo mard aur aurat dono isi mein rehte the.

aur jab tak hum the, kabhi dono mein baat nahin hui, na din mein, na raat mein. wo alag, wo alag. aur isi love marriage ke liye baap se usne takrao kiya tha ke mujhe alag ghar chahiye aur mujhe is ladki se shadi karna hai. aise ke aise ek do nahin, aise bahut qisse. aap agar is ko na jante hon to aap andhe bhare hain. aur kya keh sakta hoon main? love marriage kya cheez hai? nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing. is wajah se main sirf arrange marriage ka qail hoon. maa baap jinko tajruba hota hai, jinko experience hota hai, wo jo faisla karte hain, wahi sahi hai.

isi ko le lijiye, baqi love marriage kuch nahin. Maulana, agla sawal Chennai se aya hai, Maulana Iqbal Umri ka. unhon ne likha hai: "Maulana, ek sahib ne sawal kiya ke Maulana ki tehreer ka khulasa kya hai?"