Managing stress from unmet expectations
“This world is for test, we get less than ideal, but our nature wants ideal. This results in stress. How can we manage stress? Please guide us.”Asked by نغمہ صدیقی, دلی
He answers at 1:18:45 in Islam & Prophet of Islam 21 Oct, 2012 · 2 min 32 sec
1:18:45maulana, agla sawal hai dilli se miss naghma siddiqui ka. unhon ne likha hai: "as this world is for test, we get less than ideal, but our nature wants ideal." das results in stress. how can we manage stress? please guide us." dekhiye, maine jahan tak samjha apne tajrube se, woh yeh hai ke stress ya tension naam hai over expectation ka. over expectation. chahe woh shohar biwi ki baat ho, chahe government ki baat ho. jab shadi hoti hai aur husband wife ekatha hote hain ek ghar mein, to dono ek doosre se over expect karne lagte hain.
1:19:38wahin se shikayat paida ho jati hai. yaani husband chahta hai jo us se zyada chahta hai, jo jo chahta hai woh us se zyada hota hai jo biwi de sakti hai us ko. biwi jo chahti hai woh us se zyada hota hai jo shohar us ko de sakta hai. to married life mein jitne bhi conflict hain, woh paida hote hain over expectation ki wajah se. aisi mamla government ka hai. government se sab log shikayat karte hain, aap jante hain. jis ko dekhein, woh government ki shikayat hi bole ga. kyun? woh over expect kar raha hai. to over expectation jo hai, woh kabhi bhi aap ko shikayat se khali nahi kar sakta.
1:20:18to sahi tareeqa kya hai? ke aap realist banen. realist. aap yeh janen ke kaun kya kuch de sakta hai aap ko. balkeh mera tareeqa to yeh hai ke main kisi se expect hi nahi karta. jo us ne de diya to bara acha. hamare gaon mein, jahan UP ka rehne wala hoon main, to bachpan mein mujhe yaad aata hai ke ek ek faqeer aata aata tha. ek faqeer. boodha faqeer tha. to woh awaz lagata tha ke jo de us ka hi bhala, jo na de us ka hi bhala. jo de us ka bhi bhala, jo na de us ka bhi bhala. best formula yeh hai. best formula hai. doosron se jo kuch mil gaya aap ko, bohat acha.
1:21:01nahi mila tab bhi acha. doosron se agar mil gaya kuch to tab bhi acha hai. nahi mila tab bhi acha hai. yahi wahid cheez hai jis se aap stress free reh sakte hain. aur koi doosra formula nahi. maulana, agla sawal Dilli se hai Mr. Partha Rathi ka. unhone likha hai: "do i need to follow a religion to be a good human being?