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Life & Wisdom · Q&A

Dealing with Family Discord and Anger

“My mother has passed away. My elder brother lives separately. There is always discord between my brother and father. They fight a lot. Both are very angry. The peace of the house is destroyed. I have prayed a lot but no benefit. What should I do?”Asked by Nazneen, Delhi

He answers at 1:28:27 in God and Man · 2 min 18 sec

His answer, in his own words
1:28:27
aur har da'i ke andar yeh jazba hona chahiye. Maulana, agla sawal Ms. Nazneen ka hai Delhi se. unho'n ne likha hai: "maulana, meri walida ki death ho chuki hai. bare bhai ghar se alag rehte hain. mere bhai aur walid ke beech hamesha anban rehti hai. wo dono jab bhi milte hain, bohat jhagda karte hain. aur dono hi bohat ghusse wale hain. is wajah se ghar ka sukoon garat ho chuka hai. is ke liye maine logon se khoob dua'en karwai'n aur khud bhi dua'on ka khoob khoob wird kiya. lekin kuch faida nahi hua. k ya aap ke nazdeek is ka koi hal hai, meharbani karke bata'en?" dekhiye, dua dosre ke islaah ke liye nahi hoti.
1:29:24
apni islaah ke liye hoti hai. aap jo hai dua'en karwa'en is liye ke wo log jo hain wo jhagda na kare'n. yeh to koi dua hi nahi hai. yeh to wird hai. nahi nahi, aap par jo negative thought ate hain, aap jo mutasir ho jati hain, to hadith mein aata hai ke "alaika nafsak" save your self. to mein kaise bachao'n? apne apne ko bachane ke liye dua kijiye khuda se. wo jo dua karwai aap ne, quran khwani karai hogi, aap ne pata nahi kya karwaya hoga ke dosre logon ki islaah ho ja'e.
1:30:01
yeh kuch nahi. aap ko in ko kitabein parhwa'iye. dua se is ki islaah nahi hua karti. in ko kitabein parhwa'iye. yani in ke mind ki re-engineering darkar hai, tab ja ke wo theek ho'nge. dua se yeh sab batein islaah nahi hua karti. in ko kitabein parhwa'iye. aur jahan tak aap ka ta'alluq hai, aap sirf is baat ke liye dua kijiye ke aap mutasir na ho'n is se. yani sare hangamo'n ke beech mein aap ki positivity bhang na ho.
1:30:34
yeh yeh is ke liye dua kijiye, is ki koshish kijiye. to save your self ka formula apna'iye. in ke liye formula hai ke in ko kitabein parhwa'iye. apne liye formula hai ke save your self. agar aap yahan hain to mujhe program ke baad yahan aa ke mujh se miliye. maulana, agla sawal bangalore se maulana naseer ullah sahib ka hai.
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