Discovering own vs others' mistakes

maulana, agla sawal doha qatar se hai. maulana abdul basit umri ne kiya hai, unhon ne likha hai: "maulana, aksar doosron ki ghltiyan fori discover hoti hain, lekin apni ghlti sochne par bhi discover nahi hoti". maulana, maulana, yeh kya masla hai? is ke baray mein aap hamein batayen.

dekhen, aadmi ke andar bohat zyada yeh bhara hua hai ke "i am right". "i am right". "i am wrong" yeh bhara hua nahi hai, apne aap ko sahi samajhna, yani righteous thinking, yeh bohat bhara hua hai insaan ke andar.

to jab tak aap apne khilaaf sochne ka zehan develop na karen, tab tab tak aap nahi samajh payenge. yani anti-self thinking agar aap ke andar hogi, tab aisa hoga ke aap apne ghltiyon ko pakar payenge.

to main samajhta hoon ke is ka ek tareeqa yeh hai ke ek to ek aap ke andar anti-self thinking paida karen, doosri baat yeh honi chahiye ke doosra shakhs agar aap par criticize karta hai to bohat positively leejye, react mat kijiye, kyunke doosra aadmi jo hai, woh kisi obsession mein nahi hai aap ke baray mein.

aap ko dekhta hai, woh bohat hi, yani yani indifferent ho kar ke. to kai baar aisa hota hai ke woh point out kar pata hai doosra aadmi. to aadmi ke andar agar do sifat hain, ek to ek apna muhasba, jo kehte hain anti-self thinking, muhasbe hi ka doosra naam hai anti-self thinking.

yeh ho. aur doosri baat yeh ke criticism ko woh hamesha positive tor par le, criticism par provoke na ho, criticism par ghussa na ho, criticism ko kisi ghlt maani mein na le. yeh do siftain hain.

to yaqeeni taur par insan sachai tak pahunch sakta hai. to it is to point formula. maulana, agla sawal chennai se hai khaleel ur rehman sahab ka, unhon ne likha hai: "maulana, your thought provoking