He says that the common "do and don't" language does not make sense to children.61:15 He advises parents to use "qaul baligh"—speech that directly addresses the child's mind.62:11 He says parents should stop pampering and giving easy money, and instead speak to their children in a reasoned way.83:59 He explains that every person, whether child or adult, naturally tries to reason out everything.84:24 He tells a mother whose children ignore her to stop expecting from them and instead put her hope in Allah, because Allah alone gives and takes.91:03 He advises parents to follow Prophet Ibrahim's example by putting their children into challenges and struggles rather than giving them comfort.27:31